What if you just let yourself dream for a minute?

I don't know about you, but I've always had kind of a dreamy mindset. Like I've wanted to really allow myself to dream and think about what's possible for me. But recently, I'm having this new invigorated flavor of dreaming, of allowing myself to dream that is showing up and teaching me so many different things in these past 2 or 3 months. I've really been focusing on this subject of allowing yourself to dream and not just researching it. I've actually been leading people through the completion of dreaming big and then collapsing time on that and building their physical and mental capacity to make that happen.

And in this episode today, I want to talk about why it's important a couple of the things I learned. And I also want to have a conversation that by the end of this podcast, you're going to have a bottleneck, you're going to have somewhat of an idea of where you're going and your future self will begin to bubble up, it'll begin to be activated. And You know, I've always had a kind of dreamy mindset. Like, I've always allowed myself to dream in some capacity, but there's 2 circumstances that really come to mind that I want to share as a story that really were founding moments for me that really made it made me realize that I wanted to dream more.

And so, you know, I grew up around business. My parents own a business, and also I went to business school, but when I got my first career out of college, I worked at an angel investing company, and in this angel investing company, I want you to think of it like Shark Tank, female entrepreneurs would come up every single week, and there would be many investors around the whole U.S. That would invest hundreds of millions into these companies. And it's crazy what I saw in terms of how much money was being produced, how much money people are willing to spend on developing a new company.

And I thought to myself, like, you know, these entrepreneurs that I am coaching, how to pitch to these investors. Why can't I count myself in? Why can't I potentially own a $100 million company? Why can't I potentially grow something that is even a fraction of that? And that's when I really realized to myself is like, the way that I had been dreaming before, I was like, oh, you know, maybe I'll make a little bit here and there, maybe whatever, but when I saw this, I was like, I really want to ask myself how, what do I really want to create?

How do I want to be innovating? The world, how do I want to make an impact on it? Because whatever I desire is possible. Like these people who are creating these massive companies, they weren't doing it on their own, they had the support, they had the investing, they had the team that was helping them along the way. And I think when we think about these huge things, these huge dreams, we think that we have to do it all ourselves. We think that it's impossible to create, but they got the support that they needed. They created the story and shared their story and that's what led investors to want to invest in them.

So this was one story that really opened up my mind to see what was possible. And then later on, I was at a breath work retreat. A Wim Hof breath work retreat, if you're familiar with it. It was in Costa Rica. And I remember, you know, it was a great breathwork retreat, and I could talk all about that. But what I really remember specifically from that retreat is that they asked me for a testimonial at the end, like after all this crazy breath work. And I remember what I said was that, oh, my gosh, this breath work invigorated me so much that I have so much energy, now I'm gonna go back to work and apply it to my team, and we ended up having the biggest month that we had ever had because I was leading on a different level.

Everything was flowing differently. And it was incredible. And, you know, I had just come from a season in that company where I was feeling a little burnt out. I was feeling like, you know, I want to show up to the success. I want to show up to my job and really do well and be successful in it, but my energy is a little bit dim down. But after going through this breath work and doing more energetic work, I realized that that was a massive part of how I led. Like, yes, the strategy mattered, but how I showed up continuously is what mattered more.

Like how, like, I can say yes to myself once. So I can say build that inertia once, but can I be consistently, sustainably building that. And this energetic practice made me recognize that my energy is malleable. My energy is malleable based off of what I desire based off of how I connect with my energy. And so I just wanted to share these two stories to show you that not only is this dream life of what you want to build, whether it's a massive company or whether it's just a peaceful life where you're connected with your family and your clients, it is more than possible for you.

And in fact, a lot of people are creating massive things with the support of other people who are riding with them. And not only that, not only is there this huge possibility, if you think that you don't have enough capacity or enough energy to do that. There are literal practices and energetics that can increase your capacity to show up. Because as I've been in this journey of coaching for many years now. I've switched my niche from insomnia, coach to meditation coach, and now I'm a capacity coach, because I realize that what really builds something real is not the strategy, it is your ability to show up continuously in it.

So I can teach you the strategy of how to tell your story. I can teach you the strategy of how to build your offer, but are you going to continuously show up in it? Because the strategy is only part of it. And so we're not only gonna create your dream life, we're gonna start building capacity for you to show up continuously in it. And I want to start this conversation of just allowing you to dream. And if you have a journal in front of you, or you're on your computer, write down in your notes. What is your dream? If you had no limitations?

What would your life look like 12 months from now? If you knew that you couldn't fail, if you knew that you weren't disappointing anyone or making the wrong decision, what would you do? And as you're writing this list, like make sure that it's truly coming from you and your intuition not based off of conditioning or what you have known was possible. This is dream life. This is a space for you to truly dream, and I encourage you to really ask yourself, what do you want, 12 months from now? Do you want a more energized body, you know?

Do you want to feel not only energized, but do you want to feel rested in your body? Do you want to feel attractive in your body? Do you want to take care of yourself more cleanly? What about in your wealth and your business? How much are you earning one year from now? What does your business look like? What does your wealth feel like to you? Does it feel like an effortless flow? Or is it something that you create in batches? Like, what is that wealth energetics feel like to you? And what about in your life? Like how much support do you want?

Do you want a chef? You know, meal prep? Do you want more support from your family and just like checking in with what you need? What do you want in terms of travel and freedom and adventure? How do you speak to yourself? Do you want to have a loving connected relationship with yourself? What are your standards? What are your beliefs? What do you truly want for yourself? How do your relationships feel? How does your relationship feel with romance, with friendship? And we're really breaking down your dream life blueprint right now.

What is life without limitations 6 months from now in your body, in your wealth, and in your life? Without limitations. Allow yourself to dream. Because when you allow yourself to dream, and this is one of the things that I wanted to talk about as something I've learned over these past few months, really focusing on allowing yourself to dream is that when you do this and when you get clear around what you want and why, you show up to it more powerfully. All of a sudden you don't need this massive well of willpower to show up to actually, you know, creating the life you want.

You just become a little bit more aware of it. You, get the body on board with that, and it naturally happens. It's not something that you have to, like, drill into, force, force yourself into every single day. It's about really getting so clear around what you want and recognizing that it is possible. And so now that you've had some space to dream, and I encourage you to even pause this recording or come back to it, to really think about what you want without limitations, I want you to ask yourself, this dream life that you put out, whether it's building, you know, a 100K in a month, like having a 100K month, or whether it's selling 50 books, or whether it is, you know, being featured in a magazine, Whatever it is that's your dream life, Who is the woman who is capable of that?

Who is the woman who is capable of creating the 100K month? Who is the woman who is capable of creating wealth that flows effortlessly? Because when we ask ourselves this, it really puts us into the identity of, what do I, it's beyond what do I need to do? You know, it goes into the identity of who you become. It goes into the identity of someone who is capable of not only creating the marketing, but also creating the leadership to hold 100K months or to sell 50 bucks. You know, the person who can be seen in her story, who is clear in what she has to offer, who actually creates massive results for her clients.

Who is this woman? That's capable of that. And where are you currently that is making you unavailable for this life? What is the one thing that you are doing now that is different from how you would act in your dream life? So maybe your current reality isn't trusting yourself strong enough? Maybe your current reality isn't getting the support you need. Maybe your current reality is, you know, being unclear because that's the safe thing to do, because when you get really clear, you know, you isolate people, you get seen in a deeper way, what is the thing that is the one thing that is keeping you from stepping into that dream life?

What is this bottleneck? For some of you, it's procrastination. For some of you, it's ego. And, you know, when we're talking about bottlenecks, you could list like 50 of them. 100s of 1000s of them even. You know, it's like, oh, the space I'm in right now, the environment, like the money, the ego, the what I don't know the skills or whatever, but I want you to really break it down to ask yourself one thing. Because when you only allow yourself to say that it is because of this thing, it is because I have procrastinated.

It is because I haven't trusted myself. You allow yourself to drop all other excuses and limitations. You're like, oh, okay, well this is the thing that is going to really domino everything else in creating this growth. So what is that one thing? Whether it's procrastination, self-doubt, whether it's, not having the scale, whether it's, not getting the support, what is that one thing, that if you were to do it, it would actually change your life and allow you to step into that dream life. Because there's a reason there's a gap, you know, there's a reason that there's a difference between where you are currently and where you are in the future, where you are in your dream life.

But, Now that we understand that, if it is procrastination, for example, where would you be in 12 months if you did nothing about that? If you continue procrastinating or continued maybe doing that push pull momentum, I don't know if you guys have ever felt that, but it's like, it's easy to say yes to yourself once, but can you continue to sustainably, consistently say yes to yourself? Can you show up consistently and have the capacity to grow over time? What is that one thing? And if you were to continue procrastinating or doubting, what would your life look like?

You wouldn't have the money that you desire? You wouldn't probably have this same, like, there, you would feel even, like, there's a lack because you didn't go for it, or, you would be in the same shape, you would be working the same job, what would be the same or different 12 months from now if you were to just continue with that bottleneck? And understanding a bottleneck is more than just, you know, this is what it is. Understanding a bottleneck is also understanding what it protects you from. So this is Shadow work 101, understanding what it protects you from.

What is this bottleneck, this limitation, actually protecting you from? And let's go with the example of procrastination, because I think that resonates with so many of you guys, is what does procrastination actually protect you from? It protects you from actually going for it, because when you actually go for it, you are seen on a deeper level, there's a chance that the verdict will go wrong, a.k.a. You may fail, it protects you from risking anything, it protects you from being uncomfortable. And so recognize that this procrastination or self-doubt, the self-doubt, let's talk about what self-doubt protects you from.

It protects you from actually saying that you can do it. Because when you say that you can do it, there's this feeling that when you say that, that you may not be humble, or you may not be skilled enough to do that, or, you know, who are you to say that you can do it? So what does your bottleneck actually protect you from? Because it doesn't protect you? There's a reason it's there. And it's important to understand that reason so that we can be honest about where we are and where we're going. It protects me from this.

And Knowing that, knowing that there's a part of you that is being protected from this, you can understand it a layer deeper. Instead of saying like, oh, we just got to get past this procrastination, you're like, oh, okay. Well, there's something deeper there. Like, not only am I procrastinating, there's something there that doesn't feel safe to actually go for it. So let's hold that little part of me. You know, let's like see that little part of me who just wants to feel more safe in who she is and what she is here for.

And so notice that, This is a massive part about building your capacity, is understanding the awareness of why you're not going for it, and actually having the emotional bandwidth to sit with it and tell it is complete. And what amemia that is like, these emotions of not feeling enough or, you know, being afraid to fail, they can, it can go either one or two ways. You can suppress it. You can pretend like it's not there, you can, completely ignore it or avoid it. Or you can recognize that it's there and be honest and truthful and loving with it. And playful with it.

And even, and that allows you to actually metabolize it. And let it move through you rather than suppressing it and just sitting in your body. And now that you've had some time to sit with it and process it, it no longer needs to rest in your body. So this bottleneck, now that you've had some time to sit with it, can you be even more aware of it? What does it actually cost you when you are procrastinating? It costs you probably millions a year. It would cost you peace, it costs you the life that you actually want. I mean, you could be, like, having the impact around the world, you could be getting paid for what you love, you could be expressing yourself to your fullest extent, and that costs you more than just monetary terms too.

Like, this is a heart driven conversation just as much as it is a, you know, financial conversation. It's costing you truly living your dream life. Where do you reinforce this bottleneck? Where do you reinforce procrastination? Do you reinforce it every time that you go to make a post and then you second guess yourself? Do you reinforce it every time you scroll on your phone first thing in the morning because that saps your creativity? Do you reinforce it every time you try to look for a, and research an answer instead of just taking the action yourself, where do you reinforce it for yourself?

And what is the new pattern from here? If your pattern was procrastination, perhaps you make a realistic plan that you can actually follow that's sustainable for you. Perhaps you take the first action today. What is that new pattern? And notice that in order for the new pattern to take over, there's a new feeling. The old pattern was procrastination. The new pattern is taking sustainable action. So for that pattern to take over, you're going to need to actually put yourself out there. You're going to need to be visible.

And you're going to need to feel the discomfort that comes with that. And so part of growing past your bottlenecks and growing your capacity is recognizing that you need to feel something in order to stop repeating that same pattern. So I want to ask you guys, you know, this whole this whole dream life conversation. Like, it really made me realize that when we understand these few parts of ourselves, we can truly give ourselves direction. We can truly have this understanding that we are stepping into our dream life.

Because when you put your dream life, your dream vision on a board, there's a lot of things that you want to break down. Like a step-by-step plan. You want to know what you're doing one month, what you're doing next month. But when it comes to your dream life, whatever you wrote down or whatever you've been thinking about in terms of your body, your wealth, and your life, What is one thing that if this were to happen, it would be like undeniable proof that you are living your dream life? What would that be? Would it be you're a reliable content creator?

Would it be that you sold 50 books? Would it be that you sold a $3 million property? Would it be that, you know, what would it be that, would it be money coming into your account? What is the one thing? That when you see that happen, you'll be like, wow. Like, I really went for this dream life. I went for it and it showed up to my doorstep. And be as specific as possible as at the moment or the thing that is the undeniable evidence that you are at your dream life. The one thing that you're like, oh, wow. I'm proud of myself.

Like, for some of you, it's gonna be showing up on social media for 90 days. For some of you, it's like, oh, I haven't snapped at my family in 90 days. Like, what is it for you that you are growing into that is going to help you know that you were on the right track. And the reason I ask this is because it really brings a concrete understanding of what you need to focus on. And I want to ask you, like, there's probably, 3 parts of this undeniable evidence that I want to talk about in, one is like, okay, you've created something, okay, whether that's like you've created the portfolio, you started the podcast, you've built muscle, you increase revenue, like what is the creation, that makes it undeniable.

Oh, all my clients are, like, I don't have any more room in my client book, like I'm booked and busy. Like, what is the creation, number one? And number two, what is the bottleneck to there? Is it procrastination? Is it self-doubt? And number three, what standard and identity needs to become normal. These are the this is your 90 day expansion. This is your blueprint for growing into your dream life. What are you going to create? What are you going to release? What are you going to become? What must become normal? You know, and try to be as specific as possible.

Like, not, oh, I'm going to become a free woman, talk about, I have difficult conversations immediately. I train my body 4 times a week. I protect 4 hours of deep work every day. What is the thing that you become and you do that makes this dream life inevitable, undeniable? So again, there should be one thing that is really the focus, but like a couple of different priorities, you know, like the one thing could be, okay, I want to build my offer plan, I want to build out my company, I want to build the story I'm telling, but underneath that could be, okay, I want to, I want to post on social media daily.

It could be that I want to show up to the gym 4 times a week. So really understanding what breaks down underneath, underneath each of your goals, and understanding that the standard that you are installing with it. So I'm a woman who shows up to my dream. I'm a woman who actually builds what I want to grow in my life. I'm a woman who is consistent in the gym. I'm a woman who protects to hours of deep work every day. You know, what is this new standard that you're building? So, these questions that I've been asking you guys, it's really just to get clear on what you're meant to do.

It's really just to open up your eyes, okay, what do you truly want? And then how can we break this down and make this actually a reality? And that's what I want you to feel from my whole world in general is like, there's so much possibility, and let's dream, dream, dream, but also let's bring it back to reality and recognize that there are 3 priorities here. What are those 3 priorities? What is the number one standard that you're installing? Okay? You no longer procrastinate? You're a woman who is builds out a plan and follows through.

Your woman who listens to your intuition. Whatever it is. I want you to recognize that your dream life is not that far away, and it's about becoming clear around the woman who is capable of more and knowing exactly how to build that. Hosting these programs about planning for mirror goals, activating your dream life, it made me so hopeful for the world. Because I recognize, like, there, you know, after I had been in this world, like, studying and researching, like, who was talking about dreaming big? And then I realized that it is everywhere.

And in fact, especially if you listen to like crazy stories like trauma stories, like things that have met had an incredible transformation, or just like been at a standstill and then really blew up is like they started with dreaming. And you see this with athletes all the time, like people who break records and then the next week, their peers break the same record. I've heard it called a brother-in-law effect by, what's his name, Brian, something, the psychology of success guy. He talks about how, you know, there's this brother-in-law effect that when your brother-in-law, who shows up to your house in a Cadillac, and this guy who hasn't really amounted to anything or been successful or anything, all of a sudden, he starts becoming interested in getting a Cadillac himself.

And it just points to this, this, psychology of showing you that it's po- when you recognize that if your brother-in-law can get it, or if your, you know, friend that you met on Instagram can do it, then you can do it too, and we have evidence that this is actually possible for humanity through the lens of athletics through the lens of just seeing the community space that people are in. And so it really matters who you're surrounding yourself with and it really matters that you allow yourself to actually go there and dream and look at other people as an expander as someone who inspires you and activates you to that next level.

And, It's been really incredible to see that when you get clear upon this dream, like that's what's truly blowing my mind the most is like, I used to think that you just needed to work harder and that would go and, you know, create the success for yourself, but what I've realized is that dreaming allows you to work harder and it allows you to work smarter and it allows you to get the support you need. And so dreaming is really the antidote to all the things that we deal with in terms of limitations, in terms of burnout, in terms of being uncomfortable.

It's like when we tap into this superpower of dreaming, then there's so much more that's possible for us. So you guys, this is the importance of dreaming. And like I said, I've been hosting a couple of different programs, namely planning premiere goals, dream life activation, capacity codes. And I am combining them into one experience. That is called the capacity code. And this is going to be a 3 week intensive to activate your dream life. We're going to help you build your manifesto that grounds you over the next 12 months, so you're going to get clear around what you value, what your identity is, how to actually build the capacity in that, the physical and emotional capacity to show up.

Because like I said, I've seen so many people build the strategy and the strategy is really valuable, but if you cannot actually apply that and show up and sustainably build that, then none of that actually matters. And so we're not only gonna help you understand your manifesto and what you're here for. We're gonna help you build the capacity. And we're going to help you understand what you are known for. Your story, what how to become clear in that and unmuted in how you tell that. And I'm not just talking about on social media.

I'm talking about unmuted in your real life, with the people that you're around, with the business that you're around. And finally, we're going to help you build out and develop your business model, your offer, your sales pathway. So that you can actually create this incredible life as incredible wealth that you desire. And so I'm going to put a link in the description to sign up. This includes the potential to add on a VIP option, where when you join VIP, you will personally have audited different things that you are building.

So if you come with a story that you want audited. If you come with an offer that you want audited, I will go in and build it with you, and I've worked with people in all different industries, like I said, I started in angel investing, have been through many different niches through the health niche specifically in coaching. And I have been able to help a lot of different people. And so when you join VIP, you will have access to an audit, but also more tools can just help with more specifically what you desire. I would love to see you there.

The link is in the description. It is called the capacity code, and we start on in a week from today. I hope you have a great day and send me a message if you listen to this. I would love to hear what you thought and just let me know that you liked it. Don't forget to rate and subscribe and have a great day.