20 Questions to Move Yourself (Journal with me)

I really am a believer that when you decide to change your life, you absolutely can, but it really takes that super strong decision. And I am one of those people who, my entire life, I've been a nerd. Like I have studied the greats. I have always been interested in people who are doing things excellently, whether that's actors, whether that's people who are putting on a performance or a party, whether that's people who are doing well in business. I've always been very interested in people who are dialed in, who are doing things excellently.

And it sounds kind of cringy and trite, sometimes talking about, but it's actually something so interesting, is to try hard, is to actually develop yourself into the greatest version of yourself, the most excellent, the most driven, the most aligned version of yourself, and y'all, we are journaling today. I journaled about 20 questions around becoming the one. Because this is something that keeps on coming up for myself. There are so many people out there with all these different strategies. Follow up a branding strategy.

Follow this networking strategy. Follow XYZ. And all of them work, but you have to become the one that makes it work for you. Like, if you look at all these people who are making it. They have they have became the one for themselves. And I'm like, I want to become the one for myself. I want to become the one who makes it happen, who has the alignment, who has the dialed in lifestyle and business. And so I journaled intensely today. And I centered it around 4 different topics. Around awareness, who I am now, around acceptance, making peace with the present moment, around alignment, acting like the one.

And finally... Embodiment moving forward. And the reason I put them into these 4 sections is, previously, I've always thought of goals as, okay, we just need to think about what I need to do, what are the habits that I need to train myself into, how do I need to change? But psychology shows us that we actually need a hardcore acceptance of ourselves in order to actually make the decision to change. Whereas previously, I was like, okay, yeah, I can just detach from my past self, I don't need to know anything about her, but really, we do need to connect with ourselves in order to change.

And self-connection does include that deep awareness and that acceptance of where you are now. So it's looking at the different patterns, the different habits that make you feel disconnected, and accepting that, that's what's going on now. So let's go through the awareness part of this. It's so important to have these little prompts that can help you actually realize the clarity of your decision. Because a lot of the time we do want to make the decision. We do want to move across the country. We do wanna take the new job.

We do want to start the new business, but there's this, like, battling back and forth of, oh, do I actually want to do this? And answering questions like these can help you get to that clarity. So anyways, awareness. Who are you now? What patterns or habits make me feel small or disconnected to my power? And this can be anything. It doesn't have to be, for me, I wrote that I need to get out of bed first thing in the morning. Like, recently, I've been waking up super early and then having my quiet time and my meditation in bed.

Right now, I feel like my next habit is getting out and moving the first thing that I wake up. What version of you usually runs the show when you're stressed or uncertain? When do I feel most like myself? And what am I doing wearing saying and thinking in these moments? Where am I currently performing instead of being? What emotions or truths have I been avoiding acknowledging? All things that really make you confront yourself and just recognize what you have been avoiding, this question at the end, what emotions or truths have I been avoiding acknowledging, was really eye-opening to me because I realized that, oh, there's some anger and sadness that I thought I could just push through and I actually need to feel that a little bit.

And maybe you feel the same way. And perhaps not feeling that is what's bringing you down from actually embodying the next level. So, journal with that, sit with that. Okay, let's move on to acceptance, making peace with where you are now. So that was more of like, okay, where am I right now? And now it's about, okay, can we actually regulate and be center in what we're doing? And center and present with what who we're being. So what parts of me still believe I'm not ready and what do they need to hear? What would radical self-forgiveness look like for me right now?

That one was huge for me. What would radical self-forgiveness look like for you right now? What emotions have I labeled as bad that actually just need to be felt? In what ways can I make my nervous system feel safe while I expand? Where can I soften my expectations without losing my standards? Definitely eye opening was this self forgiveness one, because when you think about it, like, when you actually forgive yourself, it's giving yourself a blank slate. You no longer have to punish yourself for how you've been acting, you no longer have to force yourself to be a certain way.

You actually get to fully forgive yourself for any thing that you may have not done perfectly. It's such a peace to your heart. Okay, moving on into the alignment section, acting like the one, starting to show up as the one. So if you fully trusted yourself, what would you stop postponing? What would you stop postponing if you fully trusted yourself? What does the one version of the U do differently with her mornings, her boundaries, her money? For this, I wrote more of like an energetic thing? Because I know that I get so in my head about the plan sometimes.

And for me, I just need to show up. Like, that's what, for me, the one is she just shows up. She doesn't need to know the exact plan and almost, if she can plan in advance and not even know what her plan is, right, before she's showing up, like that's what works for me. That may drive other people crazy. But I've known for me that the more that I can just be in my flow state and not overanalyze the plan and have a couple of things planned here and there. But yeah, that's what, for me, the biggest difference in how I'm acting now and how the one version of me shows up is she just continuously is serving. Versus planning to serve.

Okay, how does she move, speak, and make decisions when no one is watching? What is one small embodied action that would make me proud tonight? What am I willing to let go of to be clean and creek ruined? Okay, and now this final section is embodiment, five more questions. And this is all about living in your body, in this aligned truth. What does being the one feel like in my body? How do I self regulate when life gets loud so I can stay anchored in that energy? I wrote a few different practices that I like, like simple things, like going on a walk, building something with my hands, meditating quickly, doing my hair.

Nothing crazy. What are three things that instantly bring me back to my power? What would my life look like if ease and excellence coexisted daily? I love this thought. What would your life look like if it was ease and excellence coexisting daily? What proof have I already created that I am becoming her? That last, these last 2 really struck a chord in my heart. I was like, oh my gosh, if ease and excellence existed daily, I am down. Because there has always, like I said, I've been studying the greats, like I love to study the greats, whether you're excellent at acting, whether you're excellent at throwing a party.

It's just always interesting to see someone who actually tries and puts effort and skill into what they're building. And it does require hard work, but it can actually be ease filled. And that's something that I want to try to implement more and more, even as I'm showing up to create content. I'm like, how can I make it more easy? How can I, and not just like, okay, less time, but just easy in my heart. And then the last one, what proof have I already created that I am becoming her? Like, Having to celebrate myself?

Oh my gosh, can I do that? Yes, I can celebrate myself. Going to require me to write it down and figure it out. But yeah, for me, I have this resistance in celebrating myself when it's not for something that's crazy, amazing. Like, I have no problem celebrating financial wins, you know, relationship when, but then when it's like, just celebrating myself for showing up, celebrating myself for continuing the evolution, celebrating myself for making impact in the ways that are not as, like, financially driven. You know, I'm making major impact with my clients.

Because I am the one. I'm the one to make it happen. And I know you are too. If you enjoyed this video, comment below, and let me know if you're gonna journal, let me know which question you liked the most. I'll keep on doing these this month, sending you guys lots of love.